Attitude and Perspective

May 31, 2009 at 11:54 pm Leave a comment

PhyllJim040214Remember your roots and maintain a sense of humor.  One may require the other!  (24)

I suffered a major heart attack fifteen years ago.  I was pronounced dead in the operating room, was in a coma for four days, and when I woke up was told I probably would not leave the hospital alive, and certainly wouldn’t last a year.  I think often about the fact that I am still alive and I believe there are three things to be learned from my experience:
1.  Live today fully, since you might not see tomorrow.
2.  Plan for the future, as you might live to be 100.
3.  Believe in miracles.  (26)  Note:  This submitter celebrated his own “miraculous” 61st birthday last spring.

Character Development and Ethics

Patience is the supreme attribute.  Exercise it with your spouse and with your children; on your job, with friends, with life!  (6)

Challenge yourself to think deeply about the broader implications of ALL of your actions – from tossing trash out your car window to not picking up your dog’s leavings to leaving your shopping cart in the middle of the grocery store parking lot to cheating on your taxes to lying to protect or promote yourself at work.  (100)

Education and Learning

Shut the T.V, off and read – or better yet, don’t have a television.  Substitute for this passive activity something that gives you a sense of accomplishment.  (2)

From a retired M.D. and family practitioner… Nurture a lifelong love of learning.  Robert Hutchins said, “The object of education is to prepare the young to educate themselves throughout life.”  Read every day.  Read to your kids and have them read to you.  Go to bookstores and libraries.  This is a complex world, which can be exciting.  Learn how nature and our man-made world operate.  Learn about things, people, and ideas.  (16)

Family Life

You will never be able to love your children or spouse too much.  (6)

Keep your dwelling place a “home” and not just a “house.”  Your children will remember the joys of home life and will continue to come home in their adult years.  Make dinnertime a peaceful time, spent together – a time to pray together and to listen to how each one’s day was spent.  (44)

Finances and Material Security

Read the small print; save money, not things; and make it a habit to pay cash.  (34)

Health and Wellness

Limit chemicals used on and in your body and in your home – including prescription drugs.  Intelligent lifestyle choices play a huge part (75%) in determining your long-term mental and physical health.  (34)

Marriage and Relationships

Try to be a patient, interested, loving, giving friend.  Your kindnesses will enhance you as much as the recipient.  (22)

Parenting and Child Development

Parenting never really ends.  Be mindful that you are an influence on and a model for your children’s lives as long as you live, so live your values consistently.  (4)

Parents and children can entertain conflicting ideas and opinions, but it should be firmly established that the parents make the final decision. (10)

Religion and Spiritual Well-Being

Most of us spend our hours nurturing the physical, wrapped up in the emotional, consumed with the mental, driven by the financial, and have only a few minutes left over to cultivate the spiritual.  Reverse the order and seek God first every morning, and those other aspects of life begin to make sense as they take their proper, not central, place in the grand scheme.  Listen for God’s quiet voice during your days, and He will teach you to love, and to discern right and wrong; these are the qualities of a well-lived life.  (30)

Set an example for your children by attending worship services regularly and by living your faith each day.  Part of living your faith is to be loving toward each child and to teach them the importance of honesty.  (44)


Always pay more than the minimum balance …

Financially – It appears that everywhere, in everything, it is easy to gather debt.  Deferment of gratification is an antiquated concept.

Everyone seems to want it now, regardless of what it is and the consequences of getting it now.  Paying more than the minimum balance is the only way to get ahead and get what you truly want – happiness.

Emotionally – Always give more than the minimum in any relationship.  Providing your loved ones with the minimum may get you through life but never will be as fulfilling as providing them that something extra.  An unexpected kindness will solidify a relationship more than years of the usual routine.

At school – If you want to excel, always give the instructor more than they ask for.  If they want a ten-page essay, give them twelve.  If they ask you to read a book by a certain author, read two, or research the author’s style and technique through other sources.

At work – If you want to succeed in your chosen career, always give the boss more than is expected.  If the deadline is the end of the month, get the project done by the 25th.  If you are expected to work a 40-hour week, work 42.  Don’t demand to be compensated for everything you provide and you may find that you are given more than you expect in return.  Always try to add value to what you do.

You can easily “get by” providing just what is requested of you, but to be truly successful in all things, do more than the required minimum.  (18)

Work Life

For your hobbies and your work life, pick what you most enjoy.  Thomas Edison said, “I never did a day’s work.  It was all fun.”  (16)

Honesty is the most valuable “qualification” you can offer any employer.  (19)

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